In a world that is filled with people who are in relationships, who are just leaving relationships, and who are actively seeking relationships–it’s always a question of how you function as a single unit after becoming accustomed to being in a pair for so long, or after having to see all your friends pair up and leaving you alone.
And so begins the start of a series of posts, all about how to be single in this new, digital age that we live in–where everyone is flaunting their life online and trying to achieve #RelationshipGoals. I have a lot of knowledge on this topic, nearly a decade of experience being alone (and not in an exclusive, long-term, committed relationship) and I know how to function as a complete independent.
People have come and gone, friends, family, peripheries–but the one thing that has remained constant by my side is myself and my sense of self. I’m alone, but I’m anything but lonely. There’s a difference, and hopefully by the time this comes to an end, you’ll realize that too.
So here’s to the beginning, of a journey of self-discovery that will hopefully make you more comfortable in your own skin. Maybe by the end you’ll be okay with walking alone on a street, eating by yourself in a restaurant, and staying in at home with a glass of wine without feeling like an insecure bundle of nerves.
It’s okay, you can do it. It’ll be hard at first, but if you don’t know who you are bar someone else, if another person legitimately defines your identity, how are you living anything but a half-life?
Life’s a jumble of good and bad, big and little hurdles that you’ll have to learn how to jump through. Before you settle on being paired up with someone for the rest of your life, why not learn how to jump through a few of those hurdles yourself?
I’ve committed my life to this journey, getting things to places on my own two feet. Sometimes my friends will be by my side, sometimes (but more rarely) my family. But at the end of the day, I’m walking this path by myself and I honestly can’t see it going any other way.
When all is said and done, and years pass, the only person that will still be there with you is yourself, after everyone dies. So why not figure out how to live on you own with yourself before you’re too helpless to do anything about it anymore?
Being on your own doesn’t need to be this deep dive, you can wade in the kiddie pool before deciding to jump in. There’s no rush, you have your whole life ahead of you.